We recently purchased at .38 special for my wife. I got her a speed loader and put it on the shelf. She didn't want it loaded in the house. No problem. I went and got a safe. I loaded it and put it in the safe. She was doing a drill and ran in and opened the safe. Before she took it out I said "It's loaded." She gets real angry about it. We have kids. I told her that's what the safe is for, and that the ammo is right there next to it anyway. The kids could get it and easily load a revolver. My XD45 she had trouble with racking the slide. I had the magazine in it and she got angry about that too. She took it out and put it on the shelf. Am I wrong? If I'm right how can I convince her that it's just as safe either way?